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I'm on the left, Andrew is in the middle and my partner Ed is on the right. My partner and I met in October 1993 and have been together ever since. Our son Andrew graced us with his presence on Christmas Eve 2007.

Andrew's Adoption Bear

Fatherhood Friday at Dad Blogs
When we had the court appearance and my partner and I signed the official documents to finalize the adoption of Andrew, he was given a bear by the Judge.
We call this Andrew's adoption bear.
We call him the adoption bear to begin the words that he will soon become acquainted with when we discuss his adoption and what it means.
My partner and I told ourselves that this was going to be something he knew in his early development.


Some people say we are telling him this too early. I say BullSxxt. I don't want Andrew afraid of this word and he deserves to know the truth even before he can say the word on this own. AND..by the time he is able to write the word, he will be able to express what it means to him without being ashamed or without any fear.

Happy FF Day

8 comments:

MileHighDad said...

I agree

ciara said...

i think it's not too early. you are letting him know from the get go. he will never have to question who he is where he came from especially since you are also fostering a relationship w his birth mother. i think you all are doing a great job, and i can always tell how much you guys love him in the videos i have watched :)

PJ Mullen said...

That is definitely a great thing that you are doing for him. He will never have to question where he came from and he will always know that he has you two that love him unconditionally.

WeaselMomma said...

I think you are handling it all just fine.

Bella Daddy said...

Ya know, it truly is inspiring. Besides, these are your family decisions...in my opinion, people should respect that...and keep their unsolicited opinions to themselves...your family, your choices...Kudos!

Laurel said...

I think you are making the best decision ever. And, seeing that Andrew has his Mommy in his life...it's only natural (and, I believe, healthy!) to talk about it.

I'm always, always, always so awesomely impressed by you boys!!!

xoxo

Jason said...

Ciara pretty much said exactly what I was thinking while reading your post. The fact that you're working to keep his birth mother in his life is amazing. And it's obvious how much you love him. He's going to grow up knowing exactly who he is and how much he is loved. You can't ask for more.

Shelley said...

What good daddies! This is exactly how most adoption professionals say it should be done. All the old secrets hurt everyone, especially the children.

 

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